About a little prince who tried in vain to conjure up the perfect princess
Once upon a time there was a prince, living in his huge castle, far away in a land called Sageland.
He had everything he could ask for — the finest food, the most precious jewelry and people who were entertaining him round the clock. One day he experienced a strong sense of loneliness. He decided to look for a princess. This decision was followed by countless
magnificent weddings, but after a certain time the little prince always got angry and parted as the princesses never behaved as he wanted.
When he became tired of trying, he arranged a wizard. The wizard should conjure up the perfect princess for him. This perfect princess should have exactly those features, he regarded as proper.
The wizard listened carefully to what the little prince wanted him to do.
After thinking for a while, he finally answered:
“My highness, I very much regret it, but I cannot fulfill this wish.“
The little Prince was overwhelmed with indignation, as nobody ever denied him a wish. The wizard, who was a very wise man, waited for the prince to stop scolding. When he calmed down a little, he asked him:
“My highness, when was the last time you were completely satisfied with yourself? When was the last time you fully enjoyed your own presence? When was the last time when you didn’t feel lonely while being alone?“
Irritated by the questions, the little prince answered with a slightly red head:
“I feel lonely all the time that’s why I want you to create the princess, you egghead.“
The wizard grinned knowingly.
“I see, you don’t seem to be very happy with yourself. So let me explain something to you. I can’t create the princess with the features you want me to in order to make you feel better. You simply wouldn’t like her, as you’re not at ease with yourself. No matter how perfect your princess would be, you wouldn’t be able to share love. So you don’t need a princess. You don’t need magic. What you need is to find out what love is. What you need is to explore that love is not placed in another person but in you. The only way to get access to love is through yourself.“
The angry little prince had become curious and he said he would not understand how he could find love within himself. Wasn’t love something you could only feel about another living being? What should he do with his love when he was alone? The wizard also had an answer to this question.
“My dear highness. You are very irritated by the word love. Love cannot be equated with the word relationship. Love is something you need to sense by yourself first. When you gain access to your own love, you will soon experience how much joy you are able to sense, how much love you can feel by simply watching the sun, the moon, the sea, by enjoying delicious food, or by reading a book. Soon, as your consciously practice of approaching love evolves, you will understand, that every person on this earth is carrying it inside of it, a powerful little seed of love. Some simple couldn’t find access yet. They couldn’t nurture their seed, because it’s buried under old, unconscious trauma. With this knowledge, you somehow start to feel connected, soft and loving towards random humans. You selflessly start giving people some sweet taste of your own love, in order to make them aware of their little seed again. Your state of love can be tremendous — no matter if you’re with people or just simply by yourself.“
The prince started to like the wizard’s words. But he still didn’t understand why people would have relationships when love resides within themselves.
“My estimated Prince. The answer is very obvious. Unquestionable, the love within yourself can enrich your life infinitely. However, there is something else, which alters a little bit from your own love. It’s received love. This happens when somebody who has found access to his own love is gifting some of it to you. However, this only works if this gift has absolutely nothing to do with wanting. How much fun is it to give someone a gift just for the sake of wanting something back? It’s much more fun to give in order to see the other person’s eyes sparkle, am I right? Consequently if two people, who are not looking for something in the other in order to complete themselves, but only for the sake of gifting, one of the most beautiful things which humans are able to experience can evolve. Something very pure, something without conditions.”
The little prince nodded thoughtfully. Then he asked if he could contact the wizard again when he found access to his own love-seed. He would then like to conjure up a princess who also has access to her love, as he wants to experience this so-called pure love. The wizard laughed amused.
“How could you ever find somebody interesting who is just based on you own perception. On your own limited perception. Wouldn’t that be incredibly boring? Believe me my highness, if you find somebody with whom you are able to share pure love with, this persons characteristics will certainly not be based on your ideas. If you find someone with whom you want to go a longer way in your life, regardless of whether it’s a romantic or a platonic love, this person should challenge your thoughts, challenge your perceptions and challenge your truth. You will walk with this person through life because you can grow together, because you make each others lives more exiting, more colourful, not because the other one is ego-stroking you. So never ask someone to behave according to your limited perception. Because the truth is, not even we ourselves behave as we think.
Once upon a time there was a prince, living in his huge castle, far away in a land called Sageland. He was considered the most joyful, the most generous prince who had ever lived.
